Live masterclass · Wednesday 16 September · 8pm UK
Through the Noise
What starts as advice ends in misogyny.
Raising a boy who doesn't fall for it, and doesn't pass it on.
Sixty minutes live with Stacey Yates Sellar, and I stay on afterward for another half hour of questions if you can. The replay comes to you whether you make it or not.
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If you've read It Takes 23 Minutes, you know what arrived, why it wasn't on your radar, and what to watch for in your own son. That's the noticing, and most parents never get there.
Seeing it and knowing what to do about it are two entirely different problems.
Because here's what makes this hard. The content isn't the problem. The emptiness is the problem, and the content found it. Your son is being offered brotherhood, a place in a hierarchy, and a script for how to be a man that doesn't require him to read a single social cue. For a brain that finds ambiguity genuinely distressing, that clarity is sedating.
Which is why taking the phone doesn't work, and why explaining what's wrong with the video doesn't either. You've probably already tried both.
This ninety minutes is the doing.
What we'll cover
Ninety minutes of what to actually do, built for the boy with ADHD, autism or a PDA profile.
One
Why it's landing at all
The friendship collapse that starts around fourteen and hits our sons earlier and harder. What the content is actually offering him that he isn't getting anywhere else. Why the anger you're seeing is pain with nowhere to go.
Two
Regulation before anything else
Why you can't reach a dysregulated child, how he reads your state before he hears your words, and what to do when you're the one who's flooded. Nothing else on this list works without it.
Three
Low demand, high autonomy
The framing that lets a PDA brain say yes. How to solve real problems beside him instead of across from him. And how to protect the eleven o'clock window without turning it into a check-in.
Four
Filling the space
Working with the feed rather than against it. Somewhere his body matters, chosen by him. A skill he can watch himself get good at. Real men doing real things, and how to find them when formal mentoring backfires.
Five
What to say when he says something sharp
The exact words, and the much harder skill of what to do next. Plus attachment as the delivery system for all of it, and why guilt and fear make every one of these harder.
And then
Your questions, live
A proper chunk of the ninety minutes is yours. Bring the specific thing about your specific boy that no article has answered.
This is for you if
- Your son is somewhere between nine and seventeen and neurodivergent, whether or not anyone has confirmed it on paper.
- Something has shifted in the last year and you can't quite name what.
- You've taken the phone before and watched it make everything worse.
- You'd rather understand what's happening than police it.
This isn't for you if
- You want parental control software recommendations. We won't cover them.
- You're after a script that makes him stop watching a specific thing this week.
- You want a list of influencer names to block. The names change, and chasing them costs you.
- You're hoping for something you can do to him rather than with him.
- You haven't read the free guide yet. Start there, it's the map. This is the terrain.
Who's teaching this
I'm Stacey Yates Sellar. I'm a conscious parenting coach trained directly under Dr. Shefali Tsabary, with an Applied Positive Psychology certification, and I've spent more than 10 years running live support groups for families raising neurodivergent kids.
I'm also the mum of an AuDHD son with anxiety and a PDA profile. So I've done more experiments, trial and error, and real-time learning that is impossible to squeeze intoย a 30-second reel.
This masterclass pulls together research from Niobe Way, Lisa Damour, Peggy Orenstein, Russell Barkley, Naomi Fisher, Gordon Neufeld and Deb Dana, and puts it through the one lens most of that work is missing:ย how does all of this work in your house, with your child.
The details
Wednesday 16 September
8pm UK · 3pm New York · 12pm Los Angeles
60 minutes, plus optional Q&A afterward
Replay, workbook and The Pack List included either way
He's waiting to feel understood.
Toxic content offers him a counterfeit of exactly that. The antidote is a more real version of the same thing, from someone who isn't going anywhere. Come and find out how to be that.
$29 early bird until 9 September, then $49.
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