Do you put other people down to feel better about yourself?
Unless you are as evolved as the Dalai Lama then I suggest watching this video ASAP!
Well maybe the Dalai Lama doesn't but I haven't reached that state of enlightenment yet. Until then, it is something I need to be conscious of. It helps to understand that it’s normal to want to be above average (remember the leader of the tribe was the one who was most likely to survive). The reality is that constant judging is hurting us more than the person we are criticizing. We are doing it in an effort to feel better-than and build our self-esteem. However, building self-esteem on the judgments others is like building a house on quicksand. It won't hold.
How do we change? Learn that each encounter with another person- especially one that annoys us- offers us the gift of greater self-awareness by uncovering what we do and don’t accept about ourselves. The truth is that our reactions, judgment, and criticisms of others give us more information about ourselves than about them.
I like how Jarl Forsman from gratitude 24/7 puts it “Judgments that cause emotional reactions are clues to help you find personal insight. When you explore your beliefs and assumptions instead of judging and criticizing people, you open a door to expanded self-awareness and self-acceptance.”
...And that door leads to greater happiness.
We can never know for sure what motivates other people and judging them only steals from our intention to be happier.
Now you know, what will you do?
See you in a minute,