Four steps to changing your MINDSET to be happier
Stacey Yates Sellar
Nov 15, 2019
Did you know that how you look at challenges determines how successful you will be?
Carol Dwecks' research has proven we can change our mindset. From her incredible book “Mindset” (I highly recommend reading it!) there are 4 Steps to Changing Your Mindset
- Listen! “Learn to hear your fixed, judgmental mindset voices.” As you approach an obstacle, fear, setback or criticism, pay attention and listen to your mind chatter. Become aware of statements like “I suck. I won't be good at that. I will probably fail and look like an idiot. Other people can do it better. I shouldn't even try.”
- Stop! “Recognize you have a choice.” STOP and tell yourself, “Hmm. I don't have to believe those thoughts.”
- Talkback! “Talk back to the voice with a growth mindset.” Challenge that inner voice with new thoughts like “Maybe I can't do it now, but I think I can learn. Lots of people have failed before me and survived. I might learn something really helpful from trying. I may not like hearing how I could have done it better, but it’s better than never trying and being stuck in one place forever.” Get curious with new questions. Asking ourselves, “How else can I think about this?” is very powerful I stopping a fixed mindset in its tracks. Visit the “Tools & Resources” page on our happierbytheminute website and you can download a free copy of “How to talk back to your fixed mindset”.
- Take action! “Take the growth mindset action.” Do it anyway. I was terrified to start these videos because of all the judgments I listed earlier, like “I don't know how to start a Youtube Channel. and “What if I sound like an idiot?” So I just repeated the mantra “do it anyway”, took growth mindset action and here I am.
There is a great poem by Erin Hanson that says
“There is freedom waiting for you,
On the breezes of the sky,
And you ask "What if I fall?"
Oh but my darling,
What if you fly?”
See you in a minute,
Stacey Yates Sellar
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